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Some teachers think being extremely strict or hard on pupils is the best way to go when it comes to handling them. Little did they know that such an attitude creates a poor relationship with their pupils; that is, a poor rapport is established if a teacher is too strict. Creating a good rapport with pupils is one thing every teacher must do, no matter the attitude or character they portray.
Below are a few tips to be considered in order to establish a good rapport with your pupils:
KNOW THE FULL NAMES OF YOUR PUPILS
This seems like an obvious tip, but just knowing the first name of your pupil isn’t enough. Knowing your students by name is very important, but don’t just stop there, you have to learn how to correctly pronounce and spell the full names. It tells them you are aware of their presence, and that’s a good one!
GET TO KNOW WHAT INTEREST THEM
This is also a good way of establishing a good rapport because it helps both the pupil and teacher to share ideas in certain areas. The pupil might be interested in a particular thing that may also be of interest to the teacher. That way, they are able to connect more with each other.
TRY TO BRIGHTEN UP THE ATMOSPHERE OF THE CLASSROOM WHILE TEACHING
No matter how intense teaching a class is, a laugh or two never hurts anyone. Learn to ease your tension and brighten the atmosphere of your class room once in a while, you don’t have to be ‘ALL BUSINESS, NO PLEASURE’ type. If you happen to have such personality as a teacher, it will not help your relationship with your pupils to grow. Try to push the breaks when teaching sometimes. Chip in one or two jokes in line with what you’re teaching.
ALWAYS BE RESPECTFUL
The fact that you are the teacher in your class doesn’t mean the respect pattern should be one way. You shouldn’t have the mind-set of being respected alone by your pupils without you returning the same respect towards them. Respect is reciprocal and it is earned when you respect others.
ALWAYS PUT A SMILE ON YOUR FACE
No pupil would like to relate with a face-frowning teacher. Your smile must be genuine. When you smile, you create an easy access for your pupils to meet you at any given time to share thoughts or ideas with you. Have this in mind always; ‘Behind every smile, there is an access’!
One thing parents wouldnt take lightly is to hear that their children are complaining about the way they are being treated by their teacher(s) in school. Most parents will NOT just fold their arms and let it go, they must take an action as soon as possible. So, when you decide to do something about it, how would you go about handling such situation?
Would you go to your child’s school, with guns blazing and yelling at the teacher and making him or her apologize for whatever the denunciation is?
Would you send your child back to school with one of those “MY MOMMY SAID… kind of message to the teacher?
Would you wait for your child to come back with the same complaints for the 5th or 8th time before taking some overdue actions?
Well, it could be a sensitive issue that requires a sensitive approach, so knowing what to do is very important, but firstly, in handling a situation as delicate as this, there is one thing to consider: Teachers are seen as a representation of us parents, as they too have the capacity to be caring, dedicated and well -trained in ways of making impacts on their pupils. With that said, here are actionable steps you can take in order to attend to a situation whereby your child comes reporting his or her teacher for maltreating him /her.
FIND OUT MORE
The first and most important thing to do when you get such complaints from your child is to ask questions. Dont be a parent who shoots first and asks questions later. Always be patient to know what the matter really is before taking any action. Sometimes it may seem like the teacher actually did something bad to your child based on how your child communicate it to you, but it isnt always like that, as the child might have communicated to you poorly, or you might just have misunderstood your child’s communication.
A child comes home and says to her mother MOMMY, EVERYBODY IN MY CLASS HATES ME”.
Obviously that’s not possible, but it’s something you should not let pass either, rather your attention as a parent should be, WHAT COULD HAVE POSSIBLY TRANSPIRED FOR YOUR CHILD TO HAVE SUCH WRONG NOTIONS?”, So whether it’s true or not, it requires the parent’s attention.
Try to empathize with your children. This is more like an encouragement you give to them if such complaints come to you, especially if you know your childs teacher very well and you both are always communicating about your child’s progress, youd know that he or she was, most likely, only trying to bring out the best in your child. What you should do is; let your children know that there is something great inside of them and their teachers are only trying to help bring out that greatness from within them.
Step 2 would be to inform the teacher; and with that information, the teacher can work better with your child as a tip off has been made of your child’s state of mind.
STRAIGHTEN THINGS OUT
At this point, you should try to make your child see from the teachers perspective, and you explain that the teacher would have only meant well for him or her. Having heard the complaints of your child, try not to say negative things about the teacher. Saying such things about teachers in the presence of children is bad for everyone involved; your child inclusive, as your child loses respect for the teacher. Try to make them understand that teachers are to be respected, listened to and obeyed.
Some schools have policies about situations as these. If after more findings you still have strong reasons to believe your child is being maltreated, abused or threatened in any form or way, as a parent it’s your duty to pursue further by presenting your case to the authorities of the school your child attends for further investigations or recommendations.
A necessary tool for children’s success is proper communication between parents and teachers. This is important because, when both parties are involved they know more about the child involved. Teachers should have a cordial relationship with parents and endeavour to attain a level of trust as they establish contact with them when their children are enlisted into their classes.
Teachers need to be open to parents and ensure they are available for further enquiries about their children. Parents should be able to reach teachers through different means when they have questions or issues to sort out concerning their children.
Parents are encouraged to communicate early and as often as required whenever they notice academic or behavioural lapses in their children. Do not hold back! Also try not to be lackadaisical with feedback from teachers, take every little bit of feedback from teachers seriously.
When an effective two- way communication is made, a teacher can better tailor her approach in working with each child and help the children to attain their full potentials. See this relationship a team wrestling match, but in this case THE TEACHER and THE PARENT take turns in moulding the child into a better person. That’s the objective.