COMMUNICATING WITH DIGITAL NATIVES #igslekki #digitalkids #technology [PART 1]

In our ever evolving world, especially in the era of mobile devices technology, face to face conversation has become almost impossible and of little importance for many people because they are so attached to their mobile devices. Even when they are in the midst of friends, they seem to care less about group discussions, which might be perceived as offensive, and even their environment because they are so engrossed with their phone(s).

Parents should be aware that every child craves attention.

You may have something very important you are doing with your device but you should not totally ignore your kids, especially when they need your attention, so you do not hurt their emotions unintentionally. To spend quality time with your kids, you have to put away gadgets and give your undivided attention to them. Here are some tips you should consider in order to have a good talk with your child.

Be interested in conversing with them
Try not to force yourself into talking with your kids. One thing that could help you achieve this is your curiosity about them. When you’re interested in knowing more about their activities, you would have a lot of things to talk about.

Ask them questions
This is the first step to take whenever a conversation is about to begin. The questions could be based on anything of interest to them. It could be about what they did at school, what they like or what they don’t like, what they would like to have etc.

Tell a story
There is no child that does not like to hear a good story. You can also make up a story to tell your kids just as a form of entertainment. Tell them stories that they can learn from. While doing this, you would be able to have a conversation with them because they will ask questions based on what you are saying. Remember, a good conversation is a two way process.

…to be continued

HOW GOOD ARE YOU AS A PARENT? #igs #goodparenting


You should be a go-to mum or dad; a confidante to your children. As parents, we should build the kind of relationships with our children that will allow them to trust us and be vulnerable with us. We should always try to listen to our children no matter how insignificant the issue may be.


As a parent, your words go a long way in encouraging or discouraging your child.
As a teacher, positive words inspire and are constructive, while negative words discourage and demoralise a pupil.

Your words have profound effect on the attitude and behaviour of your child. Telling your pupils you believe in them and that they can do better with their studies can inspire them to try harder. If a child thinks that his teacher believes he can learn and be good at any subject, that child will feel proud and be ready to improve in his school work. Children desperately need someone to believe in their worth and encourage them to try harder and do their best.

As educators we strive to discover each child’s strength, by doing so we are helping our children discover themselves and also to believe in their abilities.

Always think and stop before saying something degrading to a child.


Whether you are a parent or not, if you have children under your care, you should be able to teach them that there are a lot of things in life that are more valuable than material possessions.


Teach them that family is everything. Family is very important. We have each others back, we love one another, and we share our pains and successes. Family is the first foundation for any child. Teach them to always be proud of their families and not to forget where they come from.

Irrespective of gender, age or tribe, teach your children to always respect and value other people and their opinions.

Make them know that life is full of challenges. Help them to understand that life is not all about glitz and glamour. Problems and challenges can arise which may be seen as insurmountable at that time. Some can be easily solved while some can’t be. When they understand this, it will set them on the right path as they strive to do more, no matter the challenge.

Talk to them about love. Let them learn from you on how to show affection and to express it freely. Teach them to enjoy and realize that love is great.

When they value themselves, they are more likely to develop self-worth, have self-confidence and great self-esteem. 


Parents face challenging issues like discipline, decision making and a whole lot of issues as regards raising our children RIGHT.

Some challenges most parents face are:

Our children can push us beyond limit because they are not obedient sometimes. Maintain your parental control by staying in control, even when you are angry. Be mindful of your choice of words when angry.

Controlling children to the extreme can make your children become defiant, disrespectful and depressed, especially your teenagers. Sometimes, it is better you take a step backwards and allow your children figure things out unaided. Allow them experience the consequences of their actions.

Oftentimes, we allow fear to get the better part of us. Fear of the unknown. Fear sets in when we think we are not doing a good job as parents, contemplating and asking ourselves,



Lookaway from all these and focus on the good job you’re doing. Take a step backwards and look at the BEAUTIFUL THINGS in front of you. You will become more positive thereafter.

If your expectations for your children are too high, they become pressurised. Give your child the opportunity to be a child. Set realistic and attainable expectations for your child!

Work through handling challenges that come with parenting and help your children be the best.


The concept of gratitude will  be meaningless to many children if it is not constantly practiced. The challenge for today’s parents is making the act of gratitude an everyday experience, right from when their children  are over a year. Encourage and teach them to be grateful for everything, early in their childhood. It is good to start early so that the act of gratitude is habitual before they become teens. 

As parents, when we show gratitude in our daily activities, our children will naturally copy us and grow up noticing that gratitude is important in life. Children tend to copy what they see adults do, so when we value others, they will do the same. Help them see the positive side in any situation. As they see their parents being thankful always, the positive energy flows toward them. 
Teach your children to give and share what they have. Teach them the importance of the happiness that comes from sharing. Create opportunities for them to see and know what less privileged children go through. This will have a positive effect on them. They’ll be thankful for what they have and look after what they possess. 
Teach them how to say thank you always to others and expressing joy when others go out of their way to help them, the simplest way to do this is telling them “Thank you” whenever they are done with an errand or chore.
Help your children become the best they can be, morally.


Friendship is like a  planted bean seed, after planting the seed, you water it and let it grow. The seed may wither no matter what you do to make it grow, or it could grow into a beautiful plant that would later bear precious fruits. This analogy says a lot about how we build and keep good friendship. So, teach your children the same. 
Help your children to understand the following:

If there’s someone in your school whom you would love to be friends with , do not be afraid, walk up to the person with a beautiful smile on your face and start a conversation. You can begin by introducing yourself to that person. You should also give honest answers when asked questions about yourself, and feel free to ask questions too, as this is a great way to know your friends.
Let your child know that  friendship is not just about taking,  but also given,  so when they see another pupil who is too shy to talk with others to make friends, they can go over to the person and introduce themselves,  ask friendly questions and help the person feel better. 
Children should understand that making friends isn’t that hard. It could be as easy as always having a smile on one’s face. A genuine smile just has a way of easily having older children get  drawn to you.
In other to make and keep good company, teach your children to speak respectfully to their peers, because being rude and boastful will only make  others avoid being around you.
It is very important children maintain good and healthy relationship.  Even as kids, a positive social life with their peers brings a balance in their total well-being. Most children who become bullies were just children who couldn’t find any other way to make friends apart from causing other to feel worse than they feel.
So, after your child returns from school and he is well rested after a meal, ask him or her how the school was, what they did, etc. Listen to their replies.  Get to know the names of his or her class mates, understand their facial expressions and reactions, and you will be able to tell the friends he spends most of his or her time with. Some parents may even go an extra mile to know the child and his or her parents and build a relationship from there. This will make both kids to keep that good relationship even after school. 
In conclusion, if for whatever reason your child is yet to make good friends, don’t forget to always remind him or her by saying “I LOVE YOU. YOU ARE SPECIAL.”


A necessary tool for children’s success is proper communication between parents and teachers. This is important because, when both parties are involved they know more about the child involved. Teachers should have a cordial relationship with parents and endeavour to attain a level of trust as they establish contact with them when their children are enlisted into their classes. 
Teachers need to be open to parents and ensure they are available for further enquiries about their children. Parents should be able to reach teachers through different means when they have questions or issues to sort out concerning their children. 
Parents are encouraged to communicate early and as often as required whenever they notice academic or behavioural lapses in their children. Do not hold back! Also try not to be lackadaisical with feedback from teachers, take every little bit of feedback from teachers seriously. 
When an effective two- way communication is made, a teacher can better tailor her approach in working with each child and help the children to attain their full potentials. See this relationship a  team wrestling match, but in this case THE TEACHER and THE PARENT take turns in moulding the child into a better person. That’s the objective.


As a parent, your child’s safety is paramount in all sense, with your watchful eyes always over them as they jump and play energetically. But there are situations when we cant be there to protect and keep them safe. E.g. school environment. Being the parent or guardian, their safety is directly and indirectly still your responsibility whether or not you are present. When it comes to the safety of your child within the school environment there are still smart steps to take, in keeping your children safe.

Confirm your childs records are up to date

On enrolling new pupils, schools make it mandatory for parents to fill and complete series of paperwork, one of which is an Admission form, and this includes fields like parents contact details, childs medical history, childs allergies, etc. But with time, these information is becoming obsolete, as the parents contact details may have changed several times, or a childs medical history may evolve after time. This might  be very problematic when emergencies arise. As parents, make adequate efforts to contact your childs administrative  office when key information needs to be  updated. 

Meet and engage Teachers/Administrators

This gives you the opportunity to get personalized feedback on your child from his/her teacher. Its a more verbal way to stay up to date on a regular basis. Due to its personalized nature, parents and teachers or administrator can be more direct to address issues faced by children. Feel free to suggest one, if your childs school doesnt offer any active Parents-Teachers conferences. 

School Policies on safety

Every school has its policies, especially with how schools handle emergency situations, but some parents never get to actually read through their children’s handbook. So, we arent just encouraging you to read them, but you are to also review them at the beginning of every school year with your children.  These handbooks usually answer questions parents ask frequently as regards the schools policies on issues like dress code, visitors policy, emergencies, bullying, etc. and as regards other issues of concerns not dealt with in  the handbook. You may feel free to contact the schools administration office.

Technology based assistance

Technology and the use of internet or mobile devices shouldnt be kept from the  reach of children. The internet is a rich source of boundless knowledge. So, rather than shy away and distant your children from it, you should encourage it, but with THOROUGH SUPERVISION. There are mobile technologies to monitor cyber-bullying and alert you, the parent. Mobile devices are available with built in features to monitor childrens social media and internet use, current physical location and more, keeping them safe. Enforcing Child Control Software and mobile apps could be a good idea too, especially for your teens.

Open conversations with your Child should be encouraged 

Children who are encouraged to have open communications with parents or guardians are more likely to have healthy self-esteem and emotional responses, and be more likely to air their dreams, fears and thoughts. The home environment should foster open and honest conversation.