Emotional intelligence resides in each and every one of us. It is simply an ability to control, evaluate and express our emotions in different ways. Growing up into the adults that we are, we may have learnt a thing or two concerning building our emotions in certain ways based on our experiences in life. In terms of teaching others, especially our children, on how to raise their emotional intelligence, there are some suggestions listed below:
KNOWING YOUR CHILD
The first thing to do is to know your child. Knowing your child is in different phases. You can know them in terms of their likes and dislikes, what inspires them, what triggers any form of discomfort in them, etc. Once you know your child to this extent, you would be able to teach them how to manage their emotional reactions to a certain level. This is a form of teaching them problem solving.
ALLOW THEM TO EXPRESS THEMSELVES
It wont be a proper thing to see your child always moody. In fact, being moody is a type of emotion on its own, but in a case where your child has just one expression of emotion to the extent that you cant decipher whether or not he or she is angry or happy, something has to be done. Try to speak to them and encourage them to outwardly express whatever they are feeling on the inside, in order to avoid being trapped from within. Make them know that youre open to accepting whatever they express. You can also show them examples by expressing your emotions towards them, but do it with caution to avoid any form of irritation from them.
BE ATTENTIVE TO THEIR FEELINGS
Dont be too busy to be attentive to their feelings. No matter how little your child is, whether the child is a baby or a toddler, they have feelings and its your duty to pay attention to them. Once there is a feeling, there is a tendency for it to be expressed.
TELL THEM ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONS
Showing your children your emotional expression is a good way of teaching your kids how to raise their emotional intelligence. Try to tell them the feelings you’re having and play it out for them. Leave it for them to perceive it themselves and tell what youre feeling.