To spend quality time with your kids, you have to put away gadgets and give your undivided attention to them. Here are some tips you should consider in order to have a good talk with your child.
Engage them in Activities
When you are involved in a light activity with your child, your conversation may tend to go deep. Allowing your child to be part of something you like doing maybe a sporting activity, helps them open up to you.
As a parent, taking the extra effort to strengthen the bond with your child (ren) is paramount.
Lead by Example
As an adult, there must be down times for your mobile devices. During family time (Morning Devotion, Dinner etc) the use of mobile devices, if not totally eliminated, should be reduced to the barest minimum and only used when it is urgently necessary.
Monitor When and How Children use their Device
Children will always be children. It is parents’ responsibility to ensure that mobile devices are used for what they have been designed for. Know what your children do with their mobile devices: who they speak with, what is being discussed and when they use their mobile devices. Monitor them to ensure that they do not visit inappropriate sites and that they do not store or upload inappropriate posts with their phones.
It is important to let children know that they can make it through any situation. This is where coping skills come into play. Coping skills help children get back on their feet whenever they have been under pressure.
Here are some coping skills to help guide our children
- Counting slowly upwards from 1 to 10 helps children with control and focus when they feel pressured.
Teach them to take deep breaths and exhale so hard that it can move a very light object in the room. It calms the body.
Teach them to talk to you when they feel stressed. Help them to narrow down what might have triggered the stress or pressure they are feeling. It relieves negative emotions.
Teach them to ask for help from you when issues arise. Doing this helps children know that they can turn to you for help at any time. It encourages them to talk to you about different emotions/ activities and trust that you can help them through it.
Not every child would be up for this, but dancing helps in relieving tension. It can make a huge difference for any child who chooses to do this. Dancing is a good way to boost one’s mood. It is also a lot of fun.
Using these coping skills with children can help them withstand and overcome pressure easily. But remember that each child is different and these tips might not match all personality types. Work with your child(ren) to know the best coping skills for them.
YOU KNOW YOU’RE DOING A GOOD JOB WHEN YOUR CHILDREN ARE HAPPY AND CONTENT
This is an indicator of a child’s well-being. It shows there’s some kind of stability and predictability in the home. Children thrive in such an environment. When there’s order, it helps them focus on what they’re meant to do – which is growing, learning and developing.
We try our best as parents to do what is right for our children. Sometimes the road is tough and could also be easy. So we must take the right steps by ensuring that we act in their best interest in firmness with love, fairness, patience and honesty.
WHAT PRINCIPLES DO THEY LEARN FROM YOU?
Teaching our children good moral values to live by daily goes a long way in sharpening their behavioural patterns. Never relent on your efforts in teaching values, it often times stays with them and before long you’ll begin to see the fruits of your labour. Some children do experience difficulty, but effective and consistent parenting helps to clear the path for learning in every child.
DO YOUR CHILDREN SHARE THEIR DREAMS, THOUGHTS AND FEARS WITH YOU?
You should be a go-to mum or dad; a confidante to your children. As parents, we should build the kind of relationships with our children that will allow them to trust us and be vulnerable with us. We should always try to listen to our children no matter how insignificant the issue may be.
ARE YOU IN CHARGE OR THE CHILDREN CALL THE SHOTS?
There must be a leader in the family and it’s best if it’s an adult. As parents, we need to direct the daily activities of our children, set boundaries and help them make wise decisions.
“Children learn more from what we do, than from what we tell them to do.”
Have you ever thought about how our actions or the little things we do influence the kind of parents we are or will be? Let’s talk about that a bit and let’s see how well we are tracking.
IS THERE LOVE AND AFFECTION?
Children need to feel loved and they also want to know that they are lovable. How do we do these? We can do these through our actions and words. They need a constant reminder that they are loved. It creates in them a sense of belonging and reassurance.
Teach them the importance of effective communication. This doesn’t only give them a winning edge in business but life in general. Teach them how to maintain eye contact. Help them work on their self-esteem as well. Always encourage them to write correctly, speak in a polite manner and respect others. Most importantly, teach them to always pay attention and listen to people.
You can also teach them how to create opportunities for themselves. Sometimes, university degrees are not sustainable. Dynamic employment markets are the makers of today’s world. Let’s teach our children to empower themselves at a young age, find themselves and impact lives positively.
“Independence creates confidence”- Lindy Abittan.
When you teach your child entrepreneurial skills, they learn to become dependent on themselves for their own success. To inspire creative thinking, ask them to share with you how to create money to get an item for themselves and work on it with them. It inspires creative thinking.
Teach them some marketing skills through creative/interesting ways. Let them share with you how they can attract clients in their future business. Remember, it’s not meant to be a rigorous task. It should be fun or else they’ll lose interest.