To spend quality time with your kids, you have to put away gadgets and give your undivided attention to them. Here are some tips you should consider in order to have a good talk with your child.
Engage them in Activities
When you are involved in a light activity with your child, your conversation may tend to go deep. Allowing your child to be part of something you like doing maybe a sporting activity, helps them open up to you.
As a parent, taking the extra effort to strengthen the bond with your child (ren) is paramount.
Lead by Example
As an adult, there must be down times for your mobile devices. During family time (Morning Devotion, Dinner etc) the use of mobile devices, if not totally eliminated, should be reduced to the barest minimum and only used when it is urgently necessary.
Monitor When and How Children use their Device
Children will always be children. It is parents’ responsibility to ensure that mobile devices are used for what they have been designed for. Know what your children do with their mobile devices: who they speak with, what is being discussed and when they use their mobile devices. Monitor them to ensure that they do not visit inappropriate sites and that they do not store or upload inappropriate posts with their phones.
YOU KNOW YOU’RE DOING A GOOD JOB WHEN YOUR CHILDREN ARE HAPPY AND CONTENT
This is an indicator of a child’s well-being. It shows there’s some kind of stability and predictability in the home. Children thrive in such an environment. When there’s order, it helps them focus on what they’re meant to do – which is growing, learning and developing.
We try our best as parents to do what is right for our children. Sometimes the road is tough and could also be easy. So we must take the right steps by ensuring that we act in their best interest in firmness with love, fairness, patience and honesty.
WHAT PRINCIPLES DO THEY LEARN FROM YOU?
Teaching our children good moral values to live by daily goes a long way in sharpening their behavioural patterns. Never relent on your efforts in teaching values, it often times stays with them and before long you’ll begin to see the fruits of your labour. Some children do experience difficulty, but effective and consistent parenting helps to clear the path for learning in every child.
DO YOUR CHILDREN SHARE THEIR DREAMS, THOUGHTS AND FEARS WITH YOU?
You should be a go-to mum or dad; a confidante to your children. As parents, we should build the kind of relationships with our children that will allow them to trust us and be vulnerable with us. We should always try to listen to our children no matter how insignificant the issue may be.
“Children learn more from what we do, than from what we tell them to do.”
Have you ever thought about how our actions or the little things we do influence the kind of parents we are or will be? Let’s talk about that a bit and let’s see how well we are tracking.
IS THERE LOVE AND AFFECTION?
Children need to feel loved and they also want to know that they are lovable. How do we do these? We can do these through our actions and words. They need a constant reminder that they are loved. It creates in them a sense of belonging and reassurance.
Teach them the importance of effective communication. This doesn’t only give them a winning edge in business but life in general. Teach them how to maintain eye contact. Help them work on their self-esteem as well. Always encourage them to write correctly, speak in a polite manner and respect others. Most importantly, teach them to always pay attention and listen to people.
You can also teach them how to create opportunities for themselves. Sometimes, university degrees are not sustainable. Dynamic employment markets are the makers of today’s world. Let’s teach our children to empower themselves at a young age, find themselves and impact lives positively.
Teach them some marketing skills through creative/interesting ways. Let them share with you how they can attract clients in their future business. Remember, it’s not meant to be a rigorous task. It should be fun or else they’ll lose interest.
As a parent, your words go a long way in encouraging or discouraging your child.
As a teacher, positive words inspire and are constructive, while negative words discourage and demoralise a pupil.
Your words have profound effect on the attitude and behaviour of your child. Telling your pupils you believe in them and that they can do better with their studies can inspire them to try harder. If a child thinks that his teacher believes he can learn and be good at any subject, that child will feel proud and be ready to improve in his school work. Children desperately need someone to believe in their worth and encourage them to try harder and do their best.
As educators we strive to discover each child’s strength, by doing so we are helping our children discover themselves and also to believe in their abilities.
Always think and stop before saying something degrading to a child.
Social skills as the skills we need to interact adaptively in our cultural environment. Schools aren’t only a place where pupils learn how to read and write, they also learn to get along with other children and develop social skills.
For children, developing good social skills is very important to their emotional health and wellbeing. Some children are well endowed with social skills, while some are just on the average, some don’t even possess any social skill. This is because they have different personalities. These skills can be taught either by parents or teachers using different strategies.
Let’s focus on how teachers can help their pupils develop their social skills.
Children spend most of their time with their peers in school. So, at any given opportunity teachers can help improve this skill. Identify the strengths of all your pupils, their social weaknesses and create opportunities that can help them.
Pair pupils with different social skills; let them learn from each other.
Your class room style shouldn’t only be competitive but cooperative, that way your pupils can be relaxed and learn from each other.
TO BE CONTINUED.
Parents face challenging issues like discipline, decision making and a whole lot of issues as regards raising our children RIGHT.
Some challenges most parents face are:
Our children can push us beyond limit because they are not obedient sometimes. Maintain your parental control by staying in control, even when you are angry. Be mindful of your choice of words when angry.
Controlling children to the extreme can make your children become defiant, disrespectful and depressed, especially your teenagers. Sometimes, it is better you take a step backwards and allow your children figure things out unaided. Allow them experience the consequences of their actions.
Oftentimes, we allow fear to get the better part of us. Fear of the unknown. Fear sets in when we think we are not doing a good job as parents, contemplating and asking ourselves,
WHAT IF I FAIL AS A PARENT?
Lookaway from all these and focus on the good job you’re doing. Take a step backwards and look at the BEAUTIFUL THINGS in front of you. You will become more positive thereafter.
If your expectations for your children are too high, they become pressurised. Give your child the opportunity to be a child. Set realistic and attainable expectations for your child!
Work through handling challenges that come with parenting and help your children be the best.