YOUR WORDS CAN INSPIRE. #igslekki

As a parent, your words go a long way in encouraging or discouraging your child.
As a teacher, positive words inspire and are constructive, while negative words discourage and demoralise a pupil.

Your words have profound effect on the attitude and behaviour of your child. Telling your pupils you believe in them and that they can do better with their studies can inspire them to try harder. If a child thinks that his teacher believes he can learn and be good at any subject, that child will feel proud and be ready to improve in his school work. Children desperately need someone to believe in their worth and encourage them to try harder and do their best.

As educators we strive to discover each child’s strength, by doing so we are helping our children discover themselves and also to believe in their abilities.

Always think and stop before saying something degrading to a child.

​TEACHING CHILDREN SOCIAL SKILLS (PART 1). #igslekki 


Social skills as the skills we need to interact adaptively in our cultural environment. Schools aren’t only a place where pupils learn how to read and write, they also learn to get along with other children and develop social skills.

For children, developing good social skills is very important to their emotional health and wellbeing.  Some children are well endowed with social skills, while some are just on the average, some don’t even possess any social skill. This is because they have different personalities. These skills can be taught either by parents or teachers using different strategies.
Let’s focus on how teachers can help their pupils develop their social skills.
TIP #1:

Children spend most of their time with their peers in school. So, at any given opportunity teachers can help improve this skill. Identify the strengths of all your pupils, their social weaknesses and create opportunities that can help them.
Pair pupils with different social skills; let them learn from each other.
Your class room style shouldn’t only be competitive but cooperative, that way your pupils can be relaxed and learn from each other.
TO BE CONTINUED.

CHALLENGING ISSUES IN PARENTING #igslekki

Parents face challenging issues like discipline, decision making and a whole lot of issues as regards raising our children RIGHT.

Some challenges most parents face are:
ANGER

Our children can push us beyond limit because they are not obedient sometimes. Maintain your parental control by staying in control, even when you are angry. Be mindful of your choice of words when angry.
CONTROL

Controlling children to the extreme can make your children become defiant, disrespectful and depressed, especially your teenagers. Sometimes, it is better you take a step backwards and allow your children figure things out unaided. Allow them experience the consequences of their actions.
FEAR

Oftentimes, we allow fear to get the better part of us. Fear of the unknown. Fear sets in when we think we are not doing a good job as parents, contemplating and asking ourselves,

 

WHAT IF I FAIL AS A PARENT?

Lookaway from all these and focus on the good job you’re doing. Take a step backwards and look at the BEAUTIFUL THINGS in front of you. You will become more positive thereafter.
HIGH EXPECTATIONS

If your expectations for your children are too high, they become pressurised. Give your child the opportunity to be a child. Set realistic and attainable expectations for your child!

Work through handling challenges that come with parenting and help your children be the best.

​ENCOURAGING AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE.  #igslekki

The concept of gratitude will  be meaningless to many children if it is not constantly practiced. The challenge for today’s parents is making the act of gratitude an everyday experience, right from when their children  are over a year. Encourage and teach them to be grateful for everything, early in their childhood. It is good to start early so that the act of gratitude is habitual before they become teens. 

As parents, when we show gratitude in our daily activities, our children will naturally copy us and grow up noticing that gratitude is important in life. Children tend to copy what they see adults do, so when we value others, they will do the same. Help them see the positive side in any situation. As they see their parents being thankful always, the positive energy flows toward them. 
Teach your children to give and share what they have. Teach them the importance of the happiness that comes from sharing. Create opportunities for them to see and know what less privileged children go through. This will have a positive effect on them. They’ll be thankful for what they have and look after what they possess. 
Teach them how to say thank you always to others and expressing joy when others go out of their way to help them, the simplest way to do this is telling them “Thank you” whenever they are done with an errand or chore.
Help your children become the best they can be, morally.

​TEACH YOUR CHILD HOW  TO MAKE GOOD FRIENDSHIP  LAST. #igslekki 

Friendship is like a  planted bean seed, after planting the seed, you water it and let it grow. The seed may wither no matter what you do to make it grow, or it could grow into a beautiful plant that would later bear precious fruits. This analogy says a lot about how we build and keep good friendship. So, teach your children the same. 
Help your children to understand the following:

If there’s someone in your school whom you would love to be friends with , do not be afraid, walk up to the person with a beautiful smile on your face and start a conversation. You can begin by introducing yourself to that person. You should also give honest answers when asked questions about yourself, and feel free to ask questions too, as this is a great way to know your friends.
Let your child know that  friendship is not just about taking,  but also given,  so when they see another pupil who is too shy to talk with others to make friends, they can go over to the person and introduce themselves,  ask friendly questions and help the person feel better. 
Children should understand that making friends isn’t that hard. It could be as easy as always having a smile on one’s face. A genuine smile just has a way of easily having older children get  drawn to you.
In other to make and keep good company, teach your children to speak respectfully to their peers, because being rude and boastful will only make  others avoid being around you.
It is very important children maintain good and healthy relationship.  Even as kids, a positive social life with their peers brings a balance in their total well-being. Most children who become bullies were just children who couldn’t find any other way to make friends apart from causing other to feel worse than they feel.
So, after your child returns from school and he is well rested after a meal, ask him or her how the school was, what they did, etc. Listen to their replies.  Get to know the names of his or her class mates, understand their facial expressions and reactions, and you will be able to tell the friends he spends most of his or her time with. Some parents may even go an extra mile to know the child and his or her parents and build a relationship from there. This will make both kids to keep that good relationship even after school. 
In conclusion, if for whatever reason your child is yet to make good friends, don’t forget to always remind him or her by saying “I LOVE YOU. YOU ARE SPECIAL.”

​RAISING FUTURE LEADERS. #igslekki 

Children have big plans for their future. Some have really big dreams, while some have near impossible dreams. Our duty as parents is to encourage and guide them to achieve their dreams.

  • Teach them how to make decisions. They can begin with little decision-making. Like picking out their own clothes, shoes, and even the friends they keep. Guide them through decision-making and help them to know that it’s also wise to seek advice from adults before making decisions.
  • Let them figure things out for themselves by solving their own problems as they grow older. 
  • Help build their self-confidence by encouraging them to learn new things and engage in extracurricular activities. It creates room for an open mind and challenges them to do what they might perceive as impossible.
  • Teach them the importance of teamwork. Being able to work with people requires co-operation and good communication skills. Help them develop these traits.
  • Do not shield them from failures and disappointments. If they are always shielded from failures, they may never get to understand the positive side of taking risks. Also, they’ll have trouble understanding when they are faced with failures in their pursuit of success as adults.
  • Honesty is a trait that can be developed in our children. Show them in your character that it is a good thing to be honest and transparent in your daily dealings. Children are great copycats; they follow after you, so take advantage of that.

These points may not be all there is to raising great leaders, but let’s have it in mind that we can mould our children into great leaders only if we put in our efforts.

ENCOURAGING YOUR CHILD TO BE ACTIVE #igslekki 

Being active is fun, most especially for children. The more they exercise, the more they increase brain activity.
A child psychologist said, “an active childhood leads to a healthy lifestyle, and builds the foundation for the social, psychological, and mental skills needed to succeed as an adult”. We must encourage them to be active.

Encourage your kids to play and be involved in any kind of sports. Let them be free to have fun. Do not criticize them, allow them to make their choice and enjoy themselves. Let them have control. This is because the more they enjoy a particular sport, the better they become. Children rarely do what they don’t love. 

Encouraging children to play with others, helps in building team spirit. They learn to share, they teach each other, Learn to be patient and confidence is built, but endeavor to make sure their play-area is safe, all equipment should be the right ones. Also, their activities should be safe and supervised if required. 

Create some time to play with your children, amidst busy schedules as parents. Nothing beats the joy on the faces of our children when you engage in fun activities with them. We shouldn’t be too busy for them; a few hours wouldn’t hurt us. Exercise with them, play football and just have fun with them.

​HELPING YOUR CHILD BECOME RESPONSIBLE. #igslekki #lekkiphase1 #lekkischools #lekki 

Theres a general knowledge now that most children are not being trained to become responsible adults with good manners. Having said that, its our responsibility as parents, to help them learn how to be of good behaviour. 
Starting early is of topmost priority. A lot of problems can occur if children are not taught how to be of good behaviour early in life. It is a lot easier, as young children than as adults, for them to learn to be responsible. Children are great copycats. They learn a lot from us and this is a very good way for them to learn. Remember, it is what they see often that they copy. When you act responsible towards others, your kids will do the same.

Teach them how to say sorry, please and thank you. Teach them how to be nice and how to comport  themselves in public. 

There are a lot of things we have inside us as individuals to teach our kids. Lets endeavour at all times that  our children learn how to be respectful and responsible in school and at home.

​CHILDREN AND SAFETY FIRST. #igslekki

As a parent, your child’s safety is paramount in all sense, with your watchful eyes always over them as they jump and play energetically. But there are situations when we cant be there to protect and keep them safe. E.g. school environment. Being the parent or guardian, their safety is directly and indirectly still your responsibility whether or not you are present. When it comes to the safety of your child within the school environment there are still smart steps to take, in keeping your children safe.

Confirm your childs records are up to date

On enrolling new pupils, schools make it mandatory for parents to fill and complete series of paperwork, one of which is an Admission form, and this includes fields like parents contact details, childs medical history, childs allergies, etc. But with time, these information is becoming obsolete, as the parents contact details may have changed several times, or a childs medical history may evolve after time. This might  be very problematic when emergencies arise. As parents, make adequate efforts to contact your childs administrative  office when key information needs to be  updated. 

Meet and engage Teachers/Administrators

This gives you the opportunity to get personalized feedback on your child from his/her teacher. Its a more verbal way to stay up to date on a regular basis. Due to its personalized nature, parents and teachers or administrator can be more direct to address issues faced by children. Feel free to suggest one, if your childs school doesnt offer any active Parents-Teachers conferences. 

School Policies on safety

Every school has its policies, especially with how schools handle emergency situations, but some parents never get to actually read through their children’s handbook. So, we arent just encouraging you to read them, but you are to also review them at the beginning of every school year with your children.  These handbooks usually answer questions parents ask frequently as regards the schools policies on issues like dress code, visitors policy, emergencies, bullying, etc. and as regards other issues of concerns not dealt with in  the handbook. You may feel free to contact the schools administration office.

Technology based assistance

Technology and the use of internet or mobile devices shouldnt be kept from the  reach of children. The internet is a rich source of boundless knowledge. So, rather than shy away and distant your children from it, you should encourage it, but with THOROUGH SUPERVISION. There are mobile technologies to monitor cyber-bullying and alert you, the parent. Mobile devices are available with built in features to monitor childrens social media and internet use, current physical location and more, keeping them safe. Enforcing Child Control Software and mobile apps could be a good idea too, especially for your teens.

Open conversations with your Child should be encouraged 

Children who are encouraged to have open communications with parents or guardians are more likely to have healthy self-esteem and emotional responses, and be more likely to air their dreams, fears and thoughts. The home environment should foster open and honest conversation. 

​TEACHING YOUR CHILD   TO BECOME A TEAM PLAYER #igslekki

Being a team player isn’t just important while on the athletic field, it is critical while working on any group project, participating in choir or any other form of activity. A good team player is one that is willing to put his\her effort in doing a particular assignment with others in order to achieve a certain goal. He/She seeks help from others when necessary, appears to be dependable and responsible. Above all,  he/she respects the decisions of others. 
As parents, teaching your child to become a team player is very important as it goes a long way to help the child throughout his/her schooling, career and even in marriage.

Here are five ways you can teach your child to be a team player.

1. Teach respect

This is one of the most important qualities a team player should portray (respecting others). From an early stage, you should be able to start teaching your child the importance of respecting those that are in authority. Help your child to understand that the way he/she presents himself/herself and behaves, is a way of showing respect to others. Teach them the benefits of obeying instructions and following the rules and regulations of their school or any other institution. For example if a child shows up late for an event  or football practice without a required materials for the event or gears for the football practice, and doesnt show any form of remorse, he/she is simply exhibiting a sign of disrespect to the coach or instructor and teammates. Respect is something that once it is lost, it is hard to get back.


2. Provide opportunity

Every child deserves an opportunity for self-expression. For your child to become a team player, he/she has to be given the opportunity. This opportunity comes in different ways. For example, if your child is interested in sports, find a sports team he\she can be part of. If it is singing, there is always an opportunity to be part of a youth choir. If you notice your child to be the type that loves planning, leading a group or an organization, encourage the child to be part of a council for youths or clubs. With these organizations available, children are able to work in groups and plan projects that could provide results to better a situation. They will definitely have the chance to learn what it means to work as a team player.

3. Model the right behavior

Every child learns from the environment he\she is brought into. In other words, they follow the examples you show them whether directly or indirectly. As parents, you should be careful what you say or do in front of your children at home. You shouldnt encourage your child to degrade other team members or cheat to win. Make use of every opportunity you have to teach your children the importance of being on a team and being a valuable player with positive influence.

4. Follow the rules

Following rules is another important factor to be considered when teaching your child to become a good team player. Encourage your child to do what is expected of him to do when he/she is asked to, and doing it well  is equally  important, as long as the rules are positive he/she is expected to obey them. When a team member follows rules, he/she is dependable and trustworthy.

5. Accept criticism

Being in a team sometimes may be tough, especially, when there are some children better than your child in the team. This may cause your child to have difficulties coping. What you should do is to help your child accept criticism from his instructor. Help that child understand that criticism is not meant to belittle abilities, but to help become a better child in that particular area the group is focused on.

In conclusion, being a team player is a characteristic that can affect the entire life of a person. Its important that as parents, you should be able to teach your children; while they are young, to be team players. This would help build a good reputation for them.