One thing parents wouldnt take lightly is to hear that their children are complaining about the way they are being treated by their teacher(s) in school. Most parents will NOT just fold their arms and let it go, they must take an action as soon as possible. So, when you decide to do something about it, how would you go about handling such situation?
Would you go to your child’s school, with guns blazing and yelling at the teacher and making him or her apologize for whatever the denunciation is?
Would you send your child back to school with one of those “MY MOMMY SAID… kind of message to the teacher?
Would you wait for your child to come back with the same complaints for the 5th or 8th time before taking some overdue actions?
Well, it could be a sensitive issue that requires a sensitive approach, so knowing what to do is very important, but firstly, in handling a situation as delicate as this, there is one thing to consider: Teachers are seen as a representation of us parents, as they too have the capacity to be caring, dedicated and well -trained in ways of making impacts on their pupils. With that said, here are actionable steps you can take in order to attend to a situation whereby your child comes reporting his or her teacher for maltreating him /her.
FIND OUT MORE
The first and most important thing to do when you get such complaints from your child is to ask questions. Dont be a parent who shoots first and asks questions later. Always be patient to know what the matter really is before taking any action. Sometimes it may seem like the teacher actually did something bad to your child based on how your child communicate it to you, but it isnt always like that, as the child might have communicated to you poorly, or you might just have misunderstood your child’s communication.
A child comes home and says to her mother MOMMY, EVERYBODY IN MY CLASS HATES ME”.
Obviously that’s not possible, but it’s something you should not let pass either, rather your attention as a parent should be, WHAT COULD HAVE POSSIBLY TRANSPIRED FOR YOUR CHILD TO HAVE SUCH WRONG NOTIONS?”, So whether it’s true or not, it requires the parent’s attention.
Try to empathize with your children. This is more like an encouragement you give to them if such complaints come to you, especially if you know your childs teacher very well and you both are always communicating about your child’s progress, youd know that he or she was, most likely, only trying to bring out the best in your child. What you should do is; let your children know that there is something great inside of them and their teachers are only trying to help bring out that greatness from within them.
Step 2 would be to inform the teacher; and with that information, the teacher can work better with your child as a tip off has been made of your child’s state of mind.
STRAIGHTEN THINGS OUT
At this point, you should try to make your child see from the teachers perspective, and you explain that the teacher would have only meant well for him or her. Having heard the complaints of your child, try not to say negative things about the teacher. Saying such things about teachers in the presence of children is bad for everyone involved; your child inclusive, as your child loses respect for the teacher. Try to make them understand that teachers are to be respected, listened to and obeyed.
Some schools have policies about situations as these. If after more findings you still have strong reasons to believe your child is being maltreated, abused or threatened in any form or way, as a parent it’s your duty to pursue further by presenting your case to the authorities of the school your child attends for further investigations or recommendations.