WAYS TO TEACH CHILDREN TO BECOME ENTREPRENEURS #igslekki #lekkischools #entrepreneurs

Entrepreneurism and children are such an excellent match. It’s something that comes naturally to them. They fantasize a lot about getting things for themselves in the future and sometimes create a world of their own.

In the next couple of days, let’s share from these lessons on how to improve the confidence level of our children and help them create successful lives through entrepreneurial opportunities and education.

To be continued

YOUR WORDS CAN INSPIRE. #igslekki

As a parent, your words go a long way in encouraging or discouraging your child.
As a teacher, positive words inspire and are constructive, while negative words discourage and demoralise a pupil.

Your words have profound effect on the attitude and behaviour of your child. Telling your pupils you believe in them and that they can do better with their studies can inspire them to try harder. If a child thinks that his teacher believes he can learn and be good at any subject, that child will feel proud and be ready to improve in his school work. Children desperately need someone to believe in their worth and encourage them to try harder and do their best.

As educators we strive to discover each child’s strength, by doing so we are helping our children discover themselves and also to believe in their abilities.

Always think and stop before saying something degrading to a child.

​MY PARENTS – A poem by Brittany Trevisian

‘When I was younger you always knew best,
And as I grew up I never would have guessed,

That everything you told me was right,

And I just needed to put up a fight.

You would tell me I was wrong,

And we would do the same dance and song,

Only for me to learn,

That there are certain things in my life you earn.
 

You always pushed me to be more,

But only because you wanted me to soar,

You told me I could accomplish whatever I wanted to,

And all I want is to be just like you,

MY PARENTS’

​THE MOST VALUABLE THING TO DO FOR OUR CHILDREN. #igslekki

The most valuable thing we can do for our children is to “parent them the right way”.

Our children are affected more by our kind of parenting than anything in the world. We are the first point of influence they have.
The way we parent them sends a ripple effect in the chain of life. That is, through the society and anything that has to do with them. Their action affects their future and the future of others; negatively or positively.
If parenting is valuable to us then we would need to place more value on it. Pay attention to it and prioritized it over other things.
Parenting is not an easy task, and it is without off-days. Deciding to do this means devoting our time, commitment and energy to it. We must be ready to spend quality time with our children, guide them, have fun with them, educate and most especially listen to them.
We should always remember this; whatever we pass to our children is what they will exhibit. Shape their lives by giving them good values.
Be a good and caring parent, full of understanding and love, and your child will develop the same nature.

CHALLENGING ISSUES IN PARENTING #igslekki

Parents face challenging issues like discipline, decision making and a whole lot of issues as regards raising our children RIGHT.

Some challenges most parents face are:
ANGER

Our children can push us beyond limit because they are not obedient sometimes. Maintain your parental control by staying in control, even when you are angry. Be mindful of your choice of words when angry.
CONTROL

Controlling children to the extreme can make your children become defiant, disrespectful and depressed, especially your teenagers. Sometimes, it is better you take a step backwards and allow your children figure things out unaided. Allow them experience the consequences of their actions.
FEAR

Oftentimes, we allow fear to get the better part of us. Fear of the unknown. Fear sets in when we think we are not doing a good job as parents, contemplating and asking ourselves,

 

WHAT IF I FAIL AS A PARENT?

Lookaway from all these and focus on the good job you’re doing. Take a step backwards and look at the BEAUTIFUL THINGS in front of you. You will become more positive thereafter.
HIGH EXPECTATIONS

If your expectations for your children are too high, they become pressurised. Give your child the opportunity to be a child. Set realistic and attainable expectations for your child!

Work through handling challenges that come with parenting and help your children be the best.

​RAISING YOUR CHILD’S EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. #igslekki

Emotional intelligence resides in each and every one of us. It is simply an ability to control, evaluate and express our emotions in different ways. Growing up into the adults that we are, we may have learnt a thing or two concerning building our emotions in certain ways based on our experiences in life. In terms of teaching others, especially our children, on how to raise their emotional intelligence, there are some suggestions listed below:

KNOWING YOUR CHILD 

The first thing to do is to know your child. Knowing your child is in different phases. You can know them in terms of their likes and dislikes, what inspires them, what triggers any form of discomfort in them, etc. Once you know your child to this extent, you would be able to teach them how to manage their emotional reactions to a certain level. This is a form of teaching them problem solving.
ALLOW THEM TO EXPRESS THEMSELVES

It wont be a proper thing to see your child always moody. In fact, being moody is a type of emotion on its own, but in a case where your child has just one expression of emotion to the extent that you cant decipher whether or not he or she is angry or happy, something has to be done. Try to speak to them and encourage them to outwardly express whatever they are feeling on the inside, in order to avoid being trapped from within. Make them know that youre open to accepting whatever they express. You can also show them examples by expressing your emotions towards them, but do it with caution to avoid any form of irritation from them.
BE ATTENTIVE TO THEIR FEELINGS

Dont be too busy to be attentive to their feelings. No matter how little your child is, whether the child is a baby or a toddler, they have feelings and its your duty to pay attention to them. Once there is a feeling, there is a tendency for it to be expressed.
TELL THEM ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONS

Showing your children your emotional expression is a good way of teaching your kids how to raise their emotional intelligence. Try to tell them the feelings you’re having and play it out for them. Leave it for them to perceive it themselves and tell what youre feeling.

​WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD COMPLAINS ABOUT HIS/HER CLASS TEACHER?  #igslekki 

One thing parents wouldnt take lightly is to hear that their children are complaining about the way they are being treated by their teacher(s) in school. Most parents will NOT just fold their arms and let it go, they must take an action as soon as possible.  So, when you decide to do something about it, how would you go about handling such situation?

Would you go to your child’s school, with guns blazing and yelling at the teacher and making him or her apologize for whatever the denunciation is? 

           OR

Would you send your child back to school with one of those “MY MOMMY SAID… kind of message to the teacher?

          OR 

Would you wait for your child to come back with the same complaints for the 5th or 8th time before taking some overdue actions? 
Well, it could be a sensitive issue that requires a sensitive approach, so knowing what to do is very important, but firstly, in handling a situation as delicate as this, there is one thing to consider: Teachers are seen as a representation of us parents, as they too have the capacity to be caring, dedicated and well -trained in ways of making impacts on their pupils. With that said, here are actionable steps you can take in order to  attend to a situation whereby your child comes reporting his or her teacher for maltreating him /her. 


FIND OUT MORE

The first and most important thing to do when you get such complaints from your child is to ask questions. Dont be a parent who shoots first and asks questions later. Always be patient to know what the matter really is before taking any action. Sometimes it may seem like the teacher actually did something bad to your child based on how your child communicate it to  you, but it isnt always like that, as the child might have communicated to you poorly, or you might just have misunderstood your child’s communication. 
For example:

A child comes home and says to her mother MOMMY, EVERYBODY IN MY CLASS  HATES ME”. 

Obviously that’s not possible, but it’s something you should not let pass either, rather your attention as a parent should be, WHAT COULD HAVE POSSIBLY TRANSPIRED FOR YOUR CHILD TO HAVE SUCH WRONG NOTIONS?”, So whether it’s true or not, it requires the parent’s attention. 


EMPATHIZE MORE

Try to empathize with your children. This is more like an encouragement you give to them if such complaints come to you, especially if you know your childs teacher very well and you both are always communicating about your child’s progress, youd know that he or she was, most likely, only trying to bring out the best in your child. What you should do is; let your children know that there is something great inside of them and their teachers are only trying to help bring out that greatness from within them. 

Step 2 would be to inform the teacher; and with that information, the teacher can work better with your child as a tip off has been made of your child’s state of mind. 

STRAIGHTEN THINGS OUT

At this point, you should try to make your child see from the teachers perspective, and you explain that the teacher would have only meant well for him or her. Having heard the complaints of your child, try not to say negative things about the teacher. Saying such things about teachers in  the presence of  children is bad for everyone involved; your child inclusive, as your child loses respect for the teacher. Try to make them understand that teachers are to be respected, listened to and obeyed. 


SCHOOL POLICIES

Some schools have policies about situations as these. If after more findings you still have strong reasons to believe your child is being maltreated, abused or threatened in any form or way, as a parent it’s your duty to pursue further by presenting your case to the authorities of the school your child attends for further investigations or recommendations.

​IS YOUR CHILD DEVELOPING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP SKILL? #igslekki 

Children need to learn how to handle different kinds of people, especially when dealing with their friends. It’s needful for us as parents to teach them how to handle “unfriendly” friends. The relationship they build as children form a pattern for them in their future relationships, even to some extent,  their choices of husbands or  wives. 
From time to time, engage in conversations with your children about their friends. Without being too fussy or intrusive, ask them how they feel about their friends  or what they have observed about them. Help your children know and understand that there are some relationships that can go  toxic and such should be avoided. 
Encourage your child to have a wide variety of “GOOD” friends; they could be from school, church, relatives or the neighbors, so when they get into higher institutions, they would most likely know how to get along with different people, with various backgrounds and be diplomatic in their dealings with them. 
As parents we won’t always be right there in helping our children choose their friends, a better way is to equip them with the right moral standards to influence their decisions when it comes to choosing friends on their own. 

​ENCOURAGING AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE.  #igslekki

The concept of gratitude will  be meaningless to many children if it is not constantly practiced. The challenge for today’s parents is making the act of gratitude an everyday experience, right from when their children  are over a year. Encourage and teach them to be grateful for everything, early in their childhood. It is good to start early so that the act of gratitude is habitual before they become teens. 

As parents, when we show gratitude in our daily activities, our children will naturally copy us and grow up noticing that gratitude is important in life. Children tend to copy what they see adults do, so when we value others, they will do the same. Help them see the positive side in any situation. As they see their parents being thankful always, the positive energy flows toward them. 
Teach your children to give and share what they have. Teach them the importance of the happiness that comes from sharing. Create opportunities for them to see and know what less privileged children go through. This will have a positive effect on them. They’ll be thankful for what they have and look after what they possess. 
Teach them how to say thank you always to others and expressing joy when others go out of their way to help them, the simplest way to do this is telling them “Thank you” whenever they are done with an errand or chore.
Help your children become the best they can be, morally.